My Chemical Romance Disaster

Me before my sorority formal outside my dorm room way, way back almost 30 years ago. I remember being so excited because my date and I had chemistry all year long. We never met, we just passed each other every morning before 8 am. We did that thing where both people turn around as they  are passing each other just to catch the glaze of the other, looking at each other, but no one having enough courage to say hello. He going who knows where and I going to Japanese class where I had a test every single day, 5 days a week. So a few weeks before this particular night,  he finally stopped to talk to me and well I can confirm the chemistry was electric.

We started meeting at the library 📚  a few times to hang out between study sessions and finally he had the courage to ask me to my formal. You can’t tell from this picture but I was so excited to finally go on a date 🌹  with this guy. I wish I could say this was a magical night, but it wasn't! I ended up catching him kissing my sorority sister at the formal. It was scandalous and I was way beyond embarrassed. They were drunk and stupid and I definitely was not. My sorority sister was so angry at herself when everyone dished out their anger at her, I learned that day that too much alcohol is never a good thing and can make otherwise great people do really stupid things. My sorority sister was an amazing human before this happened and while it took me a while to forgive her, I have no doubt she learned and grew from that experience too. 

Relecting on this memory 30 years later, I do feel a tinge of the sadness I felt that day. But mostly I feel love and compassion for that girl back in the day because this really made her sad back then. But mostly I feel proud of that girl, because she had the capacity to forgive and not let people's actions be a reflection of her. Life is to short to hold grudges so forgive those that wrong you.